First Date Disasters

So you meet a stud in a nightclub and give him your number; and he does actually call you! Not only that, but he wants to take you on a date - a first date. And this is where it gets complicated. It was all good and well when you were utterly intoxicated in the club, bumpin’ and grinding to Usher, but now you have to see him SOBER, and have to have a normal (akward!) conversation. So here are a few tips for avoiding any first date disasters.

According to a poll by Lovepanky, your first date location is likely be a coffe shop, regular hangout location or restaurant. This means there is a big chance food will be involved.  Now I don’t know about you girls,  but I develop anxiety just thinking about eating in front of a guy I like. I don’t know what it is, but  for the first few weeks of a potential relationship I can’t bear to eat in front of a guy. This result is me eating very small portion sizes, chewing slowly and constantly wiping my mouth with a napkin.  Great for the hips and thighs, not so great for my date who has to wait 2 hours for me to finish my meal!  Now, I’m sure there are plenty of girls feel like me (or I tell myself this so as not to feel like a weirdo…) So what I suggest is, if you are going on a date which involves food 1. Order something easy to eat (NO spagetti bolognaise!!!!) 2. Don’t try to drown your nerves in too much red wine - this will only make eating even more of an experiement. And 3. Don’t grin like Crusty the Clown and ask your date “do I have something in my teeth?” (preserve this for at least the 7th or 8th date).

Another major issue with dates involving food, is the dreaded question of who should pay. Im slightly biased but I fully believe that the guy should ALWAYS pay on the first date (what can I say, Im old-fashioned!)This holds regardless of who made the invitation. I’m not alone though, according to an relationship expert from Match.com, going Dutch on the first date can put an end to a potential relationship.

To put an end to first date jitters and derail a potential disaster,  I suggest you keep it informal - go for a coffee or a couple (yes, only a couple) of drinks at a bar.  That way you won’t have to worry about getting spinach stuck in your teeth; or who will pay the bill - plus it’ll give you the chance to see if you want another date with him without having to sit through a whole meal!

And just incase you need any more reason to keep the first date away from food……

Be yourself. If,  during your first encounter with him at 3am, after a few como’s, he’s told you he’s an adrenaline junkie; and to impress him, you’ve told him how much you love whitewater rafting and abseiling  (even though your idea of being adventurous is using a public toilet) fess up before you see him again. After all, you want him to like you for you, plus you don’t wanna find yourself 40 000km above seas level skydiving cause he thought it would make an awesome first date!

Don’t rush in. There should be no references to marriage, babies and the like on a first date - this will freak him the fuck out! Keep the talk friendly and light - focus on finding out about each other.

I know we live in a digital age and it’s essential that we update our facebook statuses every 5 minutes, but please, keep communication with others to a minimum (unless you’re texting your friend to ring you and pretend she’s been in an accident in order to get you out of a horror date). Now, I don’t expect you to switch off your phones, but I’m sure your date wants to look at your face and not the back of your Blackberry (or iphone for you apple enthusiasts) for the entire date. It won’t kill you to keep your paws off your phone for an hour; and first impressions are extremely important - you don’t want him thinking you’re rude or socially inept.

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